Key Points

• Find professionals who can assist you as you cope with secondary infertility.
• Start creating healthy hobbies and coping mechanisms as you face secondary infertility.
• Discover what your options are when you’re ready to move forward after coping with secondary infertility. Connecting with a surrogacy professional can help.

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Discovering you are dealing with secondary infertility can be a shock. After having a child without fertility complications, you likely don’t imagine having to deal with the effects of secondary infertility. It can be a process when it comes to coping with secondary infertility. Having professional care, family support and healthy coping mechanisms can help you move forward.

If you need help finding the right care, connect with a surrogacy professional who can connect you with their network of professionals.

Find a Supportive Doctor

Working with a doctor who understands your needs is so important to feeling comfortable as you move forward. If you find your doctor isn’t listening to your concerns or brushes off your wants and needs, it may be time to find a new specialist. When you are going through secondary infertility and creating a treatment plan, you need to feel confident, comfortable and supported.

Consider Counseling

Secondary infertility depression is a very real issue for parents going through this diagnosis. Opening yourself up and talking to someone in a safe space allows you to cope with secondary infertility in a way you might not be able to when talking to friends and family.

Avoid Comparison

It’s hard not to play the comparison game. You may be comparing this to your last pregnancy or to friends or family members getting pregnant. Everyone is on their own journey, and while it feels the world is continue to move on easily for everyone else, you have to give yourself time to grieve your secondary infertility. This may mean turning off social media notifications, setting boundaries on how much you want to hear about the pregnancies of others and allowing yourself to feel how you feel.

Create Healthy Hobbies

When you’re coping with secondary infertility, you may be facing secondary infertility depression. This can take you out of your routine, make you put off the things you love and avoid things that feel like a burden. Take steps towards creating healthy hobbies to help you get out of your head and help get back to reality. This can be anything from daily journaling, exercise, gardening, playing with your child and more.

Spend Time with Your Family

Making space for yourself to spend quality time with your partner and child(ren) can help you on your path to coping with secondary infertility. There may be some guilt when it comes to your child if you’ve been so focused on trying to have another. Allow yourself to spend quality time with your child one-on-one. The same can be said for your partner. If a lot of your intimacy has been focused around conceiving a child, you may need to find time to reconnect on a relationship level.

Look at Your Options

You, your partner and your doctor will likely put together a treatment plan. You also have other options including surrogacy. Depending on the cause of secondary infertility, you may have plenty of options for treatments. However, some families decide to move forward with options such as surrogacy and adoption because they have exhausted all of their options or simply don’t want to deal with medical treatments.

Creating space to cope with secondary infertility gives you the time to emotionally heal through the process. If you want help finding appropriate resources, connect with a surrogacy agency.