Finding Intended Parents

How to Find People Looking for a Surrogate Mother [Your Complete Guide]

As a prospective surrogate, one of the most important parts of your surrogacy process is finding intended parents. This can be complex, so please don’t hesitate to contact us online at any time to get free surrogacy information now.

In the meantime, we’ve put together this guide that tells you everything you need to know about finding the perfect intended parents for you. We’ll go over what the process is like with and without the help of a surrogacy agency, and how you can ensure as smooth a process as possible. This is one of the most important parts of your surrogacy journey, so here is how you can find people looking for a surrogate mother.

How to Find Intended Parents [with a Surrogacy Agency]

When you’re trying to find intended parents, it can become overwhelming. To help ease any long-term stress, working with a professional surrogacy agency can bring you some peace of mind. An agency can provide you with the support that you need and do all the heavy lifting.

Although no two surrogacies are the same, there are some general steps to take when you’re seeking families who want a surrogate mom. In particular, working with a surrogacy professional can streamline this process. We’ve provided a general outline below to give you an idea of what your journey may look like:

Step 1: Create Your Surrogacy Plan

When it comes to how to find an intended parent, the first thing you’ll need to do is create your surrogacy plan. Your surrogacy professional will ask you about your needs and preferences for your surrogacy, and they’ll help you create a surrogacy plan to match them.

As a part of your surrogacy plan, your professional will also ask you about what characteristics you prefer for the intended parents. Here are some of the things they’ll ask you about:

Once they have a solid understanding of what kind of intended parents you’re searching for, your surrogacy professional can begin matching you with intended parents who meet your needs. This will make finding families looking for a surrogate much simpler.

Step 2: Make Your Surrogate Profile

Some surrogacy agencies may require you to make a surrogate profile. This provides details about who you are that your professional can show to couples looking for a surrogate mother. This allows intended parents to get a glimpse into your lifestyle, hobbies and more, and it can help them decide if they’re the right match for you.

Step 3: Choose the Intended Parents

Similar to how your surrogacy professional will show your profile to intended parents, they’ll also show intended parents’ profiles to you. As a surrogate looking for intended parents, browsing these profiles can give you a better idea of whether these parents are perfect for you or not.

While you look at these, keep in mind that the surrogacy agency has already pre-screened these intended parents to match your preferences. Once you’ve stumbled upon some intended parents that strike you as a great fit, let your surrogacy professional know so that you can move forward.

Step 4: Get to Know the Intended Parents

Now that you’ve chosen intended parents, you can begin getting to know them. Be mindful that this match isn’t final just yet. If you don’t feel that this is a good fit after you’ve met them, then you can continue your search for finding intended parents.

You may feel nervous about meeting them, and that is completely normal. Because of this, your surrogacy professional will mediate this conversation, which will either be over the phone or in person, and they can help break the ice. This will also allow you to learn more about the intended parents and ask them any questions you have. As a prospective surrogate mother looking for intended parents, be sure to take all the time you need to find the right match.

Step 5: Finalize Your Match

After both you and the intended parents feel that it’s a great match, your surrogacy professional will refer you to a reputable surrogacy attorney. The attorney will finalize the match and go over the details of your surrogacy contract. Once this has been signed, the surrogacy is official! You are now ready to start the medical process.

You may feel that having the support of a credible surrogacy agency can bring you some comfort and ease your mind. Finding intended parents can be a stressful experience, and a surrogacy professional can provide you with the guidance that you need. On top of this, you can rest assured knowing that they have a surrogacy screening process for intended parents, which means that they are ready to start the surrogacy whenever you are.[SP1] 

How to Find Intended Parents [without a Surrogacy Agency]

Although a surrogacy agency can help you find intended parents, you may choose to do this on your own. From a general standpoint, this will require more work and responsibility, but you may still want to pursue this path. The main difference between using a surrogacy agency and not using one is screening. When you look for intended parents on your own, it’s likely that the intended parents you find have not been screened. Before moving forward with a contract, make sure that you will both be approved for surrogacy.

To help you get started, here are some ways that you can find intended parents without a surrogacy agency:

If you’re not working with a surrogacy agency, then finding intended parents may take a bit longer. Surrogacy professionals have a wider outreach, which can expedite the process. Make sure you’re ready to ask intended parents some difficult, uncomfortable questions that a surrogacy professional would normally handle for you. You’ll also need to make sure that you follow every step of the process so that you don’t miss anything important.


Finding intended parents can be difficult to wrap your head around, so we understand if you have some more questions. You can fill out our online contact form to get more surrogacy information now. We look forward to hearing from you, and we’d be happy to help you in any way that we can!

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